It is in our nature to pair off, and we place an extremely high premium on romantic relationships. Hence, the devastation we feel when they end, or the depression that can come with being single and unable to find the right partner. They provide us with something that we cannot get from other relationships, and a good one can surely contribute significantly to our well-being. Traveling the road to romantic happiness can be a tough one, and it is easy to feel discouraged and defeated. But, while it may not be a picnic the whole way, you have a lot more power than you think when it comes to finding the right person for you, and having a happy, healthy relationship.
There is Nothing Wrong With Being Single
This first consideration may seem strange given the article is about how to find a relationship. But, if you can grasp the truth of this statement, you will start your search for love from a much better place. There is nothing wrong with being single, and if you truly can believe this, you will not end up in bad relationships because you feel some sort of pressure to couple up; there is nothing wrong with you just because you do not have a partner; being single is not some affliction that needs to be remedied at any cost. This is true in any stage of life, whether it be seniors dating after decades of marriage, or someone in their early 20’s.
Get to Know Yourself
Sure, we know ourselves, but most of us really do not know ourselves as well as we could. If we did, we would live our lives much differently; we would stop dating the same type of person over and over again with the same disastrous results. If you want to find the right person, you need to get to know yourself better. The better you know yourself, the clearer picture you will have of the ideal person for you. You will have a better idea of your bad patterns and your own shortcomings that may be causing you problems on the love front. Really take some time to think about who you are and what you want out of life. Take a look at past relationships and see what went wrong. All of this examination will serve you well in the dating world.
Detach and Try to Have Fun in the Process
This piece of advice is probably one the hardest to follow, but the one that will serve you best. Not every date will be great; someone will stop calling and you may not be able to figure out why. This is all par for the course. To survive the ride, try to have fun with the speed dating, the nights out at the bar, the blind date. Go into each new encounter with enthusiasm, but do not pin all your hopes on this person to be the one. It is okay to be excited, but keep expectations realistic. As long as you keep at it, and do not get too caught up emotionally, you will be moving closer and closer to your ideal mate.
About the Author:Kelli Cooper is a freelance writer who enjoys blogging about love and dating.